The noble Character and Good Manners: Their affect on upon Society – By Abu Khadeejah
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My notes:
May Allah reward out teacher Abu Khadeejah
Any mistakes are from me, any benefit is from Allah.
‘You oh Muhammad are on an exalted standard of character’ (68:4)
Abu Darda reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said,
“Nothing is heavier upon the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection than his good character. Verily, Allah hates the vulgar and obscene.”
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2002
The life of a muslim should emcompass nobility and good manners and good conduct.
‘And say to My slaves (i.e. the true believers of Islamic Monotheism) that they should (only) say those words that are the best. (Because) Shaitan (Satan) verily, sows disagreements among them. Surely, Shaitan (Satan) is to man a plain enemy’ (17:53)
Ali ibn Abi Talhah reported: Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Allah has commanded patience at a time of anger, and forbearance and forgiveness at a time of being wronged. If they do so, Allah will protect them from Satan and subdue their enemies such that they become like dear friends.”
Source: Tafsīr al-Ṭabarī 41:34
Have patience in time of anger
Have forbearance in times when faced with ignorance
Pardon when faced with harm is afflicted upon you
If done, Allah will protect and overpower their enemies.
On the authority of Abu Dharr Jundub ibn Junadah, and Abu Abdur-Rahman Muadh bin Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him), that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
‘Have taqwa (fear) of Allah wherever you may be, and follow up a bad deed with a good deed which will wipe it out, and behave well towards the people’.
Hadith 18, 40 Hadith an-Nawawi
Ibnu Qayyim commenting on above Hadith said Prophet (peace be upon him) gathered two affairs together, Taqwa of Allah and nobility of manner.
Tawqa – rectifies between people and Allah
Nobility recifies between people and the rest of creation
Abu Hurairah narrated that The Messenger of Allah said:
“The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character among them. And the best of you are those who are best to your women.”
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1162
Good manners are to prevent you harming other.
Not many from Non- muslim read quran and enter into Islam.
Most have had Islam introduced to them and seen good characteristics of a muslim and this has enticed him to learn
Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: By his good character a believer will attain the degree of one who prays during the night and fasts during the day.
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4798
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
The manners, the way that he behaves and interacts with others is a sign of what is in his heart.
If he is wretched, rude in manners, foul in speech, behaves in rude manner to other, this is a sign of sickness in his heart.
Our actions are a reflection of what is in our hearts.
Messenger Muhammad (peace be upon him) is the example we look at for perfection of character and manner. How he behaved to those around him, even those whom harmed him. How he was with the youth.
Honour our elders
Have mercy on young
Give scholars their rights
Give to the poor – ever turn away those asking
How he would impart knowledge, people would listen and accept what he said. Heart was pure and sincere.
When we talk and behave we should try to emulate the manners and behaviours if Prophet (peace be upon him)
Anas ibn Malik reported: I served the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, for ten years. By Allah, he never even said to me, “Uff!” He never said harshly, “Why did you do that?” or, “Why did you not do that?”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 5691, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2309
‘Ata’ ibn Yasar reported: I met Abdullah ibn Amr, may Allah be pleased with him, and I said, “Tell me about the description of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, in the Torah.” Abdullah said, “By Allah, he is described in the Torah with some of what is mentioned in the Quran: O Prophet, We have sent you as a witness, a bringer of glad tidings, and to give warning, (33:45) and to guard over the illiterate, for you are My servant and My messenger. I have called you a trustworthy man, who is neither rude nor loud in the markets, nor does he return evil with evil, rather he pardons and forgives. Allah Almighty will not take him back until he has made straight the religion which was crooked, that they will say there is no God but Allah, through which eyes are made to see, ears are made to hear, and neglectful hearts are awakened.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 2125
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
Do not do something, or say something that you will have to make excuses for tomorrow.
Look at own behaviour before you look at behaviours of others.
Be patient with harm
Do not respond to abuse with abuse
